Geez, so many people are in the same boat as me! I also feel I’m never going to get a girlfriend anytime soon… my parents of all people keep asking if I have a girlfriend! I’ve had a few crushes on girls before, but either I never worked up the courage to ask her out, or before I could, I found out she was already taken. I have yet to meet a girl in real-life who I can ‘click’ with beyond mere acquaintance, and who shares the same interests as me. Not to mention I’m such a wimp when it comes to expanding my social network beyond my current close group of friends at any one time.
I’m also very reserved with sharing my interests with my friends in real-life, for fear they would find me weird for liking ‘kiddy cartoon’ movies, or car chases, or ‘old’ music from the 60s to the 90s (I only like a few contemporaries, most modern music today is indistinguishable). I drop hints every now and then with my closest friends, and I’m more open with my family and you guys (because of the anonymity of the Internet).
But yeah, I always fear rejection. Or that I’m not good enough. So I hold out for the one. I’m such a hopeless romantic. I really wish I had the guts to take initiative to express my feelings to people, which is why Wall-E struck such a chord with me.
I’m not so much concerned about looks (though it would be a plus. It’s still secondary though), as much as personality. It would be my dream to find a girl who has the same interests in movies, cars, and other stuff. So far, I know only pretty girls, or it’s guys who are either interested in movies or cars, so no dice.
And like most of you, I don’t believe in serial-dating as a hobby, or that it should be done below, say, college-age. It’s good if you truly like someone, but don’t just go out with that person to show off to your mates or because you’re feeling ‘left out’. Just keep making friends, and if you really like someone, ask him/her out for a dinner and get to know more about him/her before pursuing a relationship. I always believe in finding ‘the one’, and I’ll wait for as long as it takes.