dating status

Also, forgot to mention that last week on this three day field trip to St. Simon’s Island I went on, our chaperon let me get on my Facebook (he had a laptop) for a minute, and suddenly, all my friends are around me saying “Show us a picture of Caitlin!” and I did, and they were like, “Well, she’s good enough for you, I guess”. And then, when I got back from the trip, I told Caitlin on Facebook, she said that she wasn’t mad, asked me what I had told them, and I said “That I’ve been in love with you since we first met” and she said, “Well, if it’s the truth then don’t lie to them I guess…” She said she wasn’t mad (she always does say that), but I don’t know… I think I messed up big time…

If this was facebook I think I’d have to say … “It’s complicated.”

But if I’m more honest technically single, though for a while I wasn’t sure where I was with a certain someone at one stage. Said they wanted to date me, but had things going on etc. Now I’m pretty sure it was actually “We’re just friends but you know, watch out, because after I’ve got some things striagtened out I might come after you if you’re still single!”

See, I kind of wish that was clearer earlier or else I would have possibly gone ahead with what I was debating over before with someone else, but because I wasn’t even sure what was going on, I rejected other said person because I thought that we might be something so that would be cheating and obviously not right- but now I know I was mistaken, we weren’t a thing at all, so now I feel like an idiot thanks. Because you know, a part of me was a bit interested and now it’s too late?

Aaaand I’m not too sure what I feel about them myself anyway, I’m not sure if I even have a crush or not. They’re fun as a friend in some ways and we have a laugh, though personally I think I’d make a rather sucky girlfriend and I’m not sure if I want to be one to begin with or not. Plus discussing it with another flatmate means I am more confused than ever.

I am so not sure if I just see them as a potential friend or not. Plus I doubt my family would be pleased of said choice if I made it in any case, and it wouldn’t be fair for me to expect them to be cool with keeping it on the ‘down low’ as Americans say.

… It’s weird. Postgraduate education is behaving more like sterotypical highschool than my undergraduate years ever were like. Granted, I’m still a bit more clued in, if not terrifically so.

Then again, I had little interest in romance back then anyway, so what do I know?

I just got a invitation today to my friend Ashlee’s birthday party, who lives right behind me. I wasn’t invited last year (at least I don’t think I was) and when my mom showed me pictures of the party on Facebook, I literally cried, because Caitlin was there. And the odds of Caitlin not coming to this one are 1-359873, so I’m feeling pretty good. I already told my friends from school that the next time I saw her, I’d tell her how I feel about her, but I’m gonna be under lots of pressure if I have to tell her THERE. I’ll figure something out though, hopefully. I have about two weeks until the party. Any ideas?

I’m single, and I honestly don’t have the energy to crush on someone on top of school, homework, chores, among other things…

BaW4E; maybe you could make her a card, so you don’t have to say “I like you!!”? :slight_smile:

I would, but the fact that I’ve liked her sine we first met just makes it more important that I tell her myself.

Aw, it’s so sweet. :cry: Well, I hope it goes well. With as much as you talk about her, you must definitely deserve her. I’ve never seen you post about anyone else. :wink: Good luck!!

You should just find away to pull her away from the croud Hmmm parties are hard but i’m sure that there will be plenty of good times for you to tell her ^^ You shouldnt worry so much about it i’m sure it’ll go great ^^ Don’t let your friends physc you out either YD try and get as calm as possible before the party so that it’ll be easier to tell her. If you worry to much you might get to nervous to tell her, just keep saying positive things to yourself and remind yourself how much you love her and it should go smoothly ^^

Thanks, I’ll try that and see if it works. I think my real problem is being nervous.

IncredigirlVirginia: Thanks. :slight_smile:

No offense whatsoever meant to all the girls on the board, but you are some of the most confusing creatures on the planet. After talking with some friends about why this girl suddenly stopped talking to me, just about everyone has said that based on the way she used to interact with me, she probably was interested in me, and got angry when I waited a month to text her. I mean, I didn’t know I was supposed to text her right away, I thought we were just friends and calling her the next day would make me seem desperate. I’ll admit, I automatically assumed a girl like that could never be into me, so I guess it’s partially my fault. But us guys aren’t always the best at picking up on thing, so how was I supposed to see all these little things she did as big signs that she might have liked me, and why is she just not talking to me anymore? This is one of the most confusing things I have ever had to deal with, because there is another girl I thought about asking out, and yet another girl my friend wants me to meet. I really like this girl, and people say I might be able to smooth it over, but I don’t think I’ll see her again for awhile, so maybe I should meet someone else in the meantime. Man, women…

    [b]Buzz&Woodyforever:[/b] The best advice I can give you is to not be nervous, and just go for it. I know you like this girl alot, and you want to make sure everything goes right, but trust me when I say that being nervous and doing nothing is worse than getting rejected. I take it you're still somewhat young, so you're going to have tons of time and other girls, so you really don't have much to lose, other than being embarrassed for a few weeks.

^ :smiley: :smiley: Yup. It makes perfect sense to me hahaha Well, I wouldn’t get angry or anything. But I guess I see where she’s coming from.

And B&WForever, this is probably the sweetest thing I’ve read. You must really like her, a lot. Anybody would be lucky to have you, so don’t be nervous. If I were her (and I don’t really know a whole lot about her, just like from a girl’s pov), I’d definately think it was sweet. If you’re friends with her, it shouldn’t be too nerve wracking. Just be yourself. Do what you’d normally do and say what you’d usually say, all that. Don’t let your friends freak you out a lot. All the guys I know would start acting weird if something like this was about to happen (guys confuse me :smiley:). Just be yourself and tell her how you really feel, and everything should be fine. Good luckk!

Thanks guys, but I’m probably gonna hold off on telling Caitlin how I feel about her until further notice due to some personal stuff that’s been going on with her family recently.
But, like I said before, I don’t even know if she’ll be at the party, so I don’t know.

Glad it makes sense to someone! Granted, I couldn’t even pick up on that fact that she was kinda into me, so I guess I must be doubly clueless.

Oh i know we can be VERY confusing. We are very sensitive creatures and sometimes We don’t even know why we’re upset YD we think we do but no we don’t ^^‘’’

It’s ok to wait i think. To me everything happens for a reason and if its meant to be then it will be. ^^

Just got a message from my friend Ashlee on Facebook, “hey Caitlin cant come to my party she said she has other plans” :cry:

I’m sorry abouy that…

Don’t worry, there will be a lot more opportunities.

Well, not to make it sound like a dating service but I’m currently single. :stuck_out_tongue:

Although, I have been looking for that someone special, I’ve just been kinda busy lately, that I don’t really have the time or the energy to look for that person yet.

I still dream about it, though, that one day I will finally have the chance to be beside and hold onto that girl and know that she’ll be there to comfort me at my side… :slight_smile:

I hope I don’t sound weird at all when I said that… ^^;

Aww…that’s sad to hear… :frowning: Well, don’t worry about it, you’ll find other oppurtunities to get her attention. :slight_smile:

B&WForever: That’s so frustrating, but I’m sure the right oppurtunity will come around. Maybe it’ll be better this way, and everything will come out more right. If that makes any sense

I don’t want to sound repetative but i am sorry to hear that. >3<

:blush: I do have some news about my dating status though. :blush: I’m engaged!!! ^//^ he proposed to me yesterday at school YDD I am so happy and thankfully no one has been like “Yall are too young!! Rarrr” YD know what i mean? My aunt and mother know and lots of my friends but i think he’s going to wait to tell his mother YD i told him not to wait but its his choice. All i know is i aint hiding the ring from anyone so if she happens to see oh well YDDD