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I would suggest simply talking to her. I don’t have much experience, but I was infinitely flattered and heartwarmed when a guy I’d been friends with for a long time just walked up to me and said, “Hey, I’ve been meaning to ask you out…”
He got a huge hug and an emphatic “YES!” out of the deal, so as cliched as it sounds, just being straight with someone really works 
Best of luck!
Ah… the classic case of unrequited love. I guess I’m a chicken when it comes to asking a girl out too. I’ve never been on a one-on-one date with a girl before, and I’m almost 20! I’m such a loser.
Well, the best advice I can give you coming from a complete failure like me is to just be friends with her, at least inititally. Make nice with her, introduce yourself, find some common interests. Ask if she likes Pixar movies or whether she prefers chocolate or vanilla ice-cream or something. Then when a suitable occasion comes up (like say… I don’t know, the release of Up?), ask her out on a date.
After a few outings, you should know if the friendship is mutual. Then it’s time to take it to the next level. 
Hope that helps.
You know, we should make this a relationship thread (though I guess we can leave it here if everyone promises to behave). Whaddya think?
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Trust me, I’ve been where you are right now. I was terrified to ask out my friend and ruin a great relationship. Plus, I really can’t stand rejection, as I have the ego of a small grain of sand. But if you don’t take this chance, you’ll miss out on whatever happens. Don’t pass that up.
I liked thedriveintheater’s suggestion. Just talk to her. Hang out. Eventually, things become far less awkward and it might become easier to get up the courage to ask her out.
Aw, young love. <3
Well, it’s not as if I can give out a lot of dating advice either… but I’d agree with the others and say it’s best to get to know her as a friend first, that way you can see if she is right for you, and more importantly, she can get to know you. She’s also less likely to be intimidated if you take that approach, rather than a guy she doesn’t know who comes up to her out of the blue and asks her out. To girls, it doesn’t matter too much what you look like or if you’re awkward, just be yourself, take a risk and try to be interested in her. We’re human, too, not some other species. Get a conversation going and treat her as you would if you wanted to be friends with someone else. Do you have anything in common, like school or other interests? Maybe try smiling and making eye contact first, then move onto talking. You seem like a sweet guy so even if nothing happens romantically, maybe you’ll get a friendship out of it (and maybe one of her friends might have the hots for you instead. 
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Also, not to take away anything from the great advice given here, but there’s a forum called eNotAlone that I browse sometimes that has forums about relationships plus a spectrum of other categories that we all have trouble with at one time or another. There’s a sub-forum called ‘Dating and Shy People’ that you should find useful, and you’ll realise there are quite a few other people in the same situation as you. If you do sign up there it’d probably be best if you chose a different username than you use here.
If she says “no” then that’s just how she feels. At least it’s better to know sooner rather than later, right? Everyone gets rejected at some point in their life. It’s just the way things are. There will probably be many times in the future where you like someone but they don’t like you back, and vice versa. If she doesn’t, then there’s plenty of other fish in the sea. I know that’s the last thing you’d want to hear, but it’s true. There are other people and potential girlfriends for you outside of the high school walls. But just take things one step at a time.
Good luck, and go get 'em, tiger!
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First thing I would suggest: Don’t make it a priority to ask her out. Getting to know her better and earning her friendship is very important…Then, if it’s meant to be, it’ll happen…
Here is my advice.
Don’t get too romantic or “lovey-dovey” just yet. Start out with casual conversations. You have to become friends frist before you can officially call each other boyfriend/girlfriend. Be yourself. Don’t act too cocky or jerky but don’t be timid. I know it is hard, but commmunication is a key to a strong relationship. You talk to each other, then you start to like each other (as friends first). After that, then nature slowly molds the two of you into a deeper relationship.
All I can say is pace yourself and don’t obsess over it too much. Try to get to know each other better first. And when you’re ready to ask her out and if she says no (maybe because she already has someone else, or because she’s not ready for a relationship), at least you two will have gotten to know each other well enough to become at least friends.
I can’t really give you more advice than that because I haven’t really experienced any of this yet and I know I won’t anytime soon.
robertA113 - Well, in that case just keep doing what you’re doing. Maybe ask her more personal questions, rather than just chit-chat (but that is a good start). Then you’ll get to know more about her and she’ll get to know (and like) you. Don’t worry about your face going red when you talk to her. It’s just a sign that you’re nervous in her company. If you feel yourself getting nervous, just take some deep breaths and remind yourself that you’re just talking to her as a friend. Like I said, if she’s not feeling you, just think of it as experience and maybe you’ll end up with a friend out of it at least. Let us know what happens!
You should have a radio call-in show, like “The Star Swordsman’s Love Line” or something.
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I know it’s easy enough to say, but try and just go for it, robertA113. Thing is, she might not even realise that you like her in that way, despite the blushing and shyness. I know when my ex asked me out, I was pretty surprised since I didn’t think I was his type. It was a pleasant surprise. If you don’t ask her out, then there’s a zero percent chance of the two of you getting together, but if you do give it a try, then you’ve got a better chance. As the others have said, there’s no need to rush, but just get to know her and when the time’s right, you’ll know.
She looks very pretty! Though I have to say, for her own privacy, do you think she’ll be okay with you posting a photo of her on here? As I said, it’s only for her privacy that I ask this.
Good luck!
robertA113: Oh goodness, I can totally relate. 
I went through an experience similar to this prior to high school (rather embarassing for me to recall… so I won’t try to … 
). It does suck trying to talk to them face-to-face; even if it’s simple questions about them or their personality. I would spend hours in my journal worrying about what to say or how to act and how to hide the fact that my legs would turn to jelly in the guy’s presence. 
Everyone feels this way, but look at it like this: you should consider yourself lucky to be able to talk to her face-to-face. I’ve been having a problem dealing with some slight feelings for a guy I know who lives downstate; and because he lives so far away I have no chance to talk to him or get to know him.
Like bright dot-dasher said: don’t obsess over it and spend all your time thinking about it, because from experience I can say that you will have a VERY hard time thinking about anything else. It’s best to keep your head in the right place - and I know that this far more easier said than done.
Maybe you’ll be surprised one day if you decide to ask her out one day. Once a guy I know (just as friends, and we don’t even spend a lot of time talking or anything) told me that he would love to go out with me if my parents would let me… which was not going to happen, I assured him. But still, it was flattering to think that a guy would actually want to go out with me, of all other girls he could go out with from school!
And you probably don’t realize how many girls think shy guys are amazing. Honestly, I would probably melt into the floor if a shy guy asked me out. <3 Who knows… maybe shy guys are her type…? This is where talking to her and slowly getting to know these things would really help.
I met the guy I’m having trouble with last year and now am best friends with his sister, who is close in age with me but slightly older. Through her I was able to learn a lot about this guy, so maybe if this girl you’re talking about has other siblings, you could talk to them as well…? I dunno. It’s a suggestion, anyways. 
That’s about all the input I think I can give. Take it slow, don’t fantasize, and worry more about your grades for now. 
A relationship - whether it is just friends or deeper than that - takes time to work on and build up. You can never know for sure she’s “the one” unless you really take the time to know her (and we wonder why so many relationships in high school never last…?). I really hope I helped a bit…
little chef
robertA113 - Yes, your crush is a very pretty. However, I’m going to agree with lizardgirl and say that maybe it’s best for you to edit your post and remove the picture to protect both her and your anonymity.
If you are musically enclined, perhaps write her a song! That’s what I do!
robertA113: Hey buddy, where did all of your posts go?
Aw, you didn’t have to remove all of your posts, robertA113. It was an honest mistake, don’t worry about it.
Oh my, did you think his 'secret admiree" discovered this thread? I wish him the best of luck, though.
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