aerostarmonk: Congratulations buddy!
Evangeline: Aww, thank you that means a lot!
Yeah, EJE. You can’t be a loser. Anyone who loves FOTC can’t possibly be a loser. You also seem to be very driven. Losers aren’t driven!
If there’s anyone who isn’t a loser on these boards, that’s you, Ellie.
Congrats, aerostarmonk! Told you it would work!
EJE, even though I don’t know very well, I have to agree with everyone else who says you are not a loser. You seem like a cool and fun person to me.
dahhh, you guys are amazing. See what I said about compliments? lol, just kidding. 
Anyways yeah, you guys are all too nice.
I can never think of enough compliments for you, Ellie, as you’re one of the most integral persons of the forums.
Yeah I was surprised it worked. I was given the most fortunate opportunity in which I was asked to use only one word to describe her and someone had already replied with kind.
That’s great! You see? Things are almost never as bas as they seem, and most girls will like to hear some kind words, as long as you don’t come on too strong.
EJE, you’re no loser. I’m the loser, because I have bad social skills, and a huge ego problem.
lols, well I think you’re great Virginia! And at least you admit your flaws. Everyone has them, and a lot of people deny it, and that makes them worse. You admit that you’re human by telling us your flaws, and that’s great. I myself have jealousy issues, and am very impatient!
I get jealous, but over stupid hings, like authority power, and number of posts. 
Congrats aerostarmonk!
And hey IGV, you’re still.young and have plenty of time. Besides as mentioned we all have flaws. But we all grow and change and we can learn from our mistakes too.
Thanks!! 
Sometimes you just have to grow into yourself over time. I didn’t have any friends in high school (literally! I know, right?) and boys never talked to me. Iit didn’t get better in college until my sophomore year, when I actually tried to socialize. Boys still didn’t hit on me, and I figured there was something wrong with my face/body/personality because of it, and then I met my future boyfriend and we started chatting on Facebook over summer break. He was too shy to tell me he liked me, so I figured he didn’t (how else would I know?). Finally, we became further friends when school started again and watched movies together in my room. I did something I’d never imagine myself doing and reached for his hand while we were watching Ponyo. He looked at our hands with a puzzled look until he realized what I was doing, and that’s when our relationship started.
What I’m saying is that there’s a right person for everyone: you may have to look, you may have to be patient and wait for them to come along, or maybe they’re already there but no one’s communicating their feelings yet. I’d say that if you haven’t graduated from high school yet, you still have a LOT of time to become more comfortable with yourself. I mean, I would get embarrassed if someone used to even look at me up close; I felt like I had to apologize to them for being so hard to look at. Then I just stopped caring and grew a teeny bit more confidence–just a teeny! Shyness is still part of who I naturally am. I know it’s super cliché to say that confidence is attractive, but it really can be.
The problem for me is that the entire burden of approach and confidence seems to be on the male. Most times anyway. I don’t really like the thought of going up to bat knowing very well that my batting average will be well below .100. And I’m generally told I should take that with a smile because “the game” is fun.
Wow, this is the board of the insecurities and fears.
It can be, I guess. I think it has to be mutual at the same time. Like I said, I had no idea if my current boyfriend liked me at the time because he didn’t have the courage to give me any sort of indication that he did. I don’t know if any other guys on campus find me attractive because no one’s ever acted as such. It’s not all about clearly stating your feelings for someone. It can start off slowly.
It’s another reason why I often think that maybe I should just opt out of the whole deal. It’s too complicated. You can’t go too fast, you can’t go too slow, you can’t be direct but you can’t be indirect, you can’t be too shy but you also can’t be overconfident, etc. You have to use just the right touch, which differs from person to person. There are so many mind-boggling variables that it makes me want to tear my hair out (which I frequently do but for other reasons).
Not to mention it’s all but impossible to establish real life relationships (both platonic and romantic) outside of school or work without taking the equivalent of doctoral courses in humiliation and rejection.
I’m sorry to sound like such a downer, guys. I just have such a hard time functioning in society and the older I get the more it seems impossible that I’ll ever fully integrate.
I don’t hit on people, because I’m undesirable, and don’t want to seem desperate.
I don’t “hit on people” because I don’t feel that way about anyone, and I’m hard-headed enough to believe I never will. I kind of wish we didn’t have to feel that way about each other. What’s wrong with just being friends? 