I’m really convinced I’ve found him, and this is no stupid teenage stupid thing. We even were together. Only problem is, he moved on. A long time ago. 
Aw, I’m really sorry to hear that, IV. If it’s not too personal, may I ask what happened?
I know what it feels like though. I’m rather sure I have met her, but due to my stupidity and nerves, blew my chance with her.
I’ll PM you, because I don’t want to cause a controversy. 
A number of girls have caught my fancy this year. Some of them don’t even fit on my perfect list at all. For a number of years I’ve been told I was too rigid in my standards, but I no longer think that’s true because I’d be willing to give up my standards for just the right person. It’s all about compatibility. There are a number of people I could run into who’d fit this list to a T and still wouldn’t do it for me. While others who are so far away that they might as well be on list of things I’d hate might be just the thing I need. The world is a giant crapshoot like that.
But without further ado I’d like to present my preferences.
I’d like for the girl I’d end up with to be a very sweet and kind person. I’d like for her to be incredibly patient. I’d prefer for her to be intelligent and good-humored. I’d prefer her to share interests similar to mine, especially when it comes to all the nerdy stuff I like. I want to be able to talk at length with her about a number of subjects that just goes over the heads of most of the people I talk to or are usually just apathetic about. I’d love for her to be the creative type whether it’s writing, art or music, etc. I’d hope she’d be able to understand some of the worst aspects of my personality such as my mental illness. I’d really love it if she were asexual. (this aspect alone is probably the biggest reason why I have to go well outside of my list of preferences because it reduces my options to far less than 10% of the population) There’s also that whole no drinking, no smoking, no drugs things that really makes this list next to impossible as well.
As for appearance, I really love the look of offbeat nerdy girls who wear glasses. Especially the ones who don’t bother with makeup or anything like that. I’m kind of a sucker for freckles as well.
Now here’s the clincher, I’ve actually talked to or met a number of girls who very nearly fit this profile like a custom-made glove. Some I’m really interested in and if I had any guts at all I’d actively pursue (confidence is something I really work on as I have none. I’m basically a shut-in who rarely leaves the house because of my shyness. I even refrained from posting frequently here for 3 years because I was afraid of what others might think of me) Others I’m just happy to know.
What I’m trying to say is that those of you who have these lists and preferences and choose to stubbornly stick to them should try to look at things differently. You never know who might be right for you. The Republican might meet a Democrat who respects their opinion and gives them one heck of a debate every once in awhile that results in a fusion of both their viewpoints that’s greater than the sum of its parts. Or the Christian might meet an atheist or agonstic that supplements their beliefs with scientific views that actually reinforces their belief in God.
The perfect person for anyone is often not what they want but what they need.
So next time you go searching for that special somebody, keep an open mind. You just never know.
And I’ll just shut up now. Cause that may be the cheesiest thing I’ve ever said. It’s like I’ve stepped out of some romantic comedy that’s aiming for Oscar gold or something.
Those are some interesting points. I think what you say might be true for a lot of people, but I’m not the type of personality most men would find appealing anyways, so being picky isn’t hurting me any. 
Besides, I could never marry a non-religious person. I could do okay with another denomination of Christian, or even a Muslim, but never someone who believes in nothing. I would kill myself in that circumstance. Now on the politics, I would prefer someone in the middle. In my opinion, both sides are way too extreme and inconsiderate of other peoples’ needs, so I choose the middle, slightly to the right. But green movements are very important, just not to the psycho level. IE right-middle.
I understand you weren’t talking directly to me, aerostarmonk, I just wanted to think about how I feel and answer you.
You make alot of good points, aerostarmonk. I try and stay very open about who I meet in general, girls included. While I know I have a type, I treat it more like a general idea than a set in stone, won’t budge in the matter kind of thing. Even though I will admit I have a major weakness for blondes, I know i could fall for a brunette too. My only real thing is I want a “good girl”, which is something I can’t explain, but that I know when I see it. Other than that, I’m pretty open to the possibilities. I like to have some things we can both talk about, but I don’t really care what they are. I know no one will ever meet everyone of my expectations so, I try to take them for who they are. The blonde thing is kinda hard to get past though…My one true weakness
I have to admit that I have a very strong attachment to my type as well. I’m still going through the process of training myself to fully take advantage of my advice.
There are a couple of things that should probably be said though. Make sure you’re comfortable with whatever choices you make on this journey.
Now I don’t mean comfortable as in don’t do anything hard or never do anything that you wouldn’t normally do. I mean more as a guideline in things that I think are pretty obvious. Such as don’t get drunk if that sorta thing isn’t your scene. Or don’t get stoned to impress anybody.
These are pretty common things that everyone already knows but I just wanted to stress them. Because despite them being common & obvious thing many people forget the m everyday.
Also a good point. I’d like to say though that you shouldn’t be against trying new things though. I never used to drink, go to the bar or parties until a few months ago, but I tried it out, and I actually found I like it. (I’m over 21) You can be in that scene without losing who you are. I have still never done drugs, and I don’t get drunk, only buzzed, but I also have a really good time, and I used to think all that stuff was stupid. I guess my point it, be open to things.
I’ve actually done quite a bit. And due to the obvious I can’t really go into it. But I definitely know that it isn’t my scene. The very shy and sheltered unconfident person I am today is a partial result of these events. actually abhor the taste of alcohol. Can’t even stand when people cook with it.
But you’ve basically said what I sad but better. Don’t be afraid to be try new things but don’t lose yourself when doing them.
I feel like there is one person out there for me. Just one, and destiny will make us meet. I wonder a lot if whoever it is is thinking about me, and I love imagining what they’re doing. I do keep an open mind though. I just don’t think that they’re here yet. I want them to accept me for my nerdy self, and listen to me and just understand. I want them to be goofy, and someone I could cry laughing so hard with. And of course I want them to love me just as much as I love them, whoever they are. I really hope they’re religious, I hope that they if not share my interests accept them, and aren’t afraid to be who they really are. Looks don’t really matter to me. Though I really hope they have gorgeous eyes <3 
[quote=“Evangeline”]
I feel like there is one person out there for me. Just one, and destiny will make us meet.
[quote]
Maybe I’m just a sap, but this totally describes me. <3
This is a question more for the girls, but I suppose guys can chime in too. Anyways, how do you like to be approached by people who are interested in you? Prefer a confident or more forward approach, or something a little more shy and slow?
It kind of… depends. Not shy, but slower for the most part. But still confident I guess? If that makes any sense. Someone who you know is confident enough not to rush things would be a pretty attractive quality I think. Someone who rushes a bit too much… kind of throws me off. But if they’re too shy, I wouldn’t maybe take the hint. I like people to be a bit talkative really though.
I’m kind of weird compared to some people I know in the sense that I find it hard to be ultimately attracted to someone until.I get to know them a bit better. I mean to say I can see someone as ‘hot’ I guess in terms of looks but I ultimately won’t care in ‘that way’ and it would merely be a casual observation until I say talk to them, have established some sort of shared interest or whatever and maybe a bit of time. Then maybe. And not always then (sometimes your mind just sticks people in the ‘friend’ category… not that that can’t ever change again but yeah…).
For instance, I went ot a club a couple of months ago and danced with a guy and though he was nice looking and all, and a part of me was a bit flattered when he asked for a kiss like two minutes after meeting me… well I had no freakin’ clue who he was beyond the fact he was probably a student and his first name. So it kind of weirded me out. I mean I didn’t even know his age.
So if I’d oblidged… I kind of doubt I’d have got much out of it when other people I know can kiss or do more or whatever and get something out of it.
That’s just a weird aspect of me though I guess.
I met a guy and he asked for my number. Not that interested, but I can try this out!
Good for you, and hey, new experiences can be fun!
I’ve always wanted to try asking a girl for her number, but I’ve always been way to nervous. I just assume they’ll think I’m weird or something.
^ Exactly.
Well, now that I think, I once asked one because Darth Vader, from the planet Vulcan, told me he’d melt me brain if I didn’t ask.
^ Oh, cool. Did you end up taking her to the Enchantment Under the Sea dance, where you knocked out the school bully and got your first kiss?
Nope. I forgot to do that and Vader did melt my brain. That’s why I am like this now.
Aw, bummer man. Stuff happens, though.
That’s totally natural.
I also put all the traits of my perfect girl in the main heroine of my writings.
Now I’m feeling bad, because that’s probably what Stephanie Meyer did with her perfect man in Twilight. I feel nauseated 