Huh, I have tried to tell myself again and again that High School drama is the worst kind of drama to experience when you have asperger’s, are shy, and lack a mental spinal column to keep you standing strong. Although I (and everyone else) doesn’t tend to get physical bullies at my school, there is a lot of hot topics and overexaggerated rumors thrown around the school that might get thrown out of proportion. If high school is so difficult, just remind yourself that High School only lasts for four years, and you’ll be very lucky to even reunite with your old classmates once you graduate. I haven’t graduated myself, but High School is the worst time to be worrying about who likes you or not, since it won’t really matter once you walk out of those doors.
I’ve read a lots of posts here about people who feel guilty all time.
Well, I have no disability and yet that happens to me a lot. I keep feeling guilty about thing I didn’t do and asking for pardon to everyone.
Hey Incredigirl, you know back in the day when we complained about people cheapening our disorders by over-diagnosing themselves with it? Well, I just have to rant about that again. Today, the boy who sits next to me in science, in his average “dead set on being absolutely, God-awfully annoying every second he can” manor, was poking me, making weird voices, and just plain wouldn’t shut his mouth when I was really trying to work (of course, the teacher wasn’t doing a friggin thing). I seriously could not focus, and that coupled with the fact that he was just that annoying it was really, really stressing me out. After many times of telling him to stop, I told him that I have bad ADD, and he really was NOT HELPING. His response? “Yeah, I have it too.”
Really? Because I HIGHLY DOUBT THAT.
You don’t pay attention because you don’t try to. If you wanted to pay attention, you would NOT be acting up for the sake of doing so, especially since that kind of behavior is much more in tune with ADHD. There is a difference. Then, the girl across from me said, and I quote, “Everyone says they have ADD. I think its really funny when people say that.” And this was in a “Please, that disorder is so fake” tone of voice . I very kindly told her that it is quite over-diagnosed (especially from people diagnosing themselves), and in fact, ADD has been on the rise anyway in recent generations being constantly exposed to video games and TV.
Oh, and by the way, the guy didn’t stop being annoying until I starting having what looked like mini-panic attack. And then he started it right up again ten minutes later. AHHH.
Oh, I’m sorry 
There are bullies like that everywhere.
The thing that dissapointed me the most was that the girl is actually a good friend of mine. That’s the first time I’ve ever heard her say something like that.
Maybe he’s just prejudiced about that because she heard her parents talking about it, or something.
Don’t judge her so fast. Sometimes that kind of commentaries are a product of not knowing enough about the matter.
I’m so sorry! That was just mean of him. And I’m even more sorry that your friend just dismissed you like that. I guess some friends just forget what a friend is sometimes. I’ve personally heard plenty of Autism and Asperger’s(@$$-burgers? Is that kind of joking necessary? I’m certainly not laughing.) jokes and I never find it funny. Once in the Eighth grade, I was trying to tell my friend Jessica about my “problem”, right? I said to her, “Have you heard of Asperger’s Syndrome?” So, of course, she says, “You mean @$$ burgers? Yes. I think it’s very funny, and it’s one of the coolest Retardations I’ve ever heard of.”
Okay, so I was like, " 
" just sitting there, not knowing how to respond. I am not Retarded. Not even close. So then I told her I had it, and she says, “But you look so normal! How are you retarded?” And you can just picture my face as something like this, " 
". I tried to explain the symptoms and differences to her, and she kept making snarky and “funny” comments. So then I tried to politely remind her she was talking about me, her friend, not someone she doesn’t know. To say the least, we don’t talk much anymore. Luckily we go to separate high schools, so there isn’t much conflict there.
Then, last year(9th grade) in Biology, for extra credit, I did this report. I asked the teacher, because I became very interested in the real rain man(Kim Peek) and she said it was a wonderful idea. He had Opitz-Kaveggia Syndrome( ctd.mdibl.org/detail.go?type=dis … cc=C537923 ) and I had a lot of fun doing the report. But when I finished, I heard lots of people saying he was creepy or he was an idiot or a “Retard”. I became very angry, and just sat down. I didn’t speak to anyone in that class for a week, save my friend Joseph. That still makes me very angry.
I guess I was probably overly sensitive and protective in that case. I don’t know. But now I am very cautious about who I tell, judging on their maturity, and whether I think they will handle it properly or not. I think a lot of the kids in the band at my high school know(the director told them before I came to school to get the whole “Hey, you’re weird, and you’re obsessed, and you talk too much” thing over with). But they think it’s cool. Like, they ask me questions about my symptoms and how I feel and I’m very comfortable with it. It takes me longer yo connect with people, especially kids, especially very immature ones or those I have little in common with. But once or if it happens, it’s much easier for me to maintain friendships now. I even have a few(6 or 7) friends, including Glenn, coming with me to see Cars 2 on my birthday! But I still try to only tell people who I trust, just for safety’s sake. I still hear lots of Retardation and Autism and Asperger’s jokes, but it’s always from people who don’t know me, or don’t know I have it. I get very frustrated, but at least it’s not directed toward me. And it’s easier for me to correct them or ask them to stop being so blatantly rude if they think it’s coming from the outside, rather than an actual special needs kid.
As I said, it’s mainly ignorance on those people’s part, not necessarily that they’re mean.
That may be true. But, when I know very little on a topic, I find it best to stay silent, rather than make a fool of myself or ruin someone’s self image by making them feel inferior or stupid.
You just found the key to be wise 
Sadly, most people wanna talk, even about what they don’t know anything about.
I’m sure. I have that impulse a lot, but I really don’t want to say something foolish and than pay for it. I’m sure that a lot of times, even on here, I say those things anyway. But I’m working toward a goal of listening before speaking.
Some days, I have to work with special kids. I’ll say it is quite an adventure. Once you look past their disability, they seem to be really bright kids.
Thank goodness that mental health is swept under the carpet in Asian countries, because it is almost a ‘quite denial’ sort of thing here like how some people believe that gay people don’t exist (or that they ‘chose’ to become one and can be ‘fixed’).
In a way, it’s sad that it doesn’t receive much discussion and debate in the national forum (people used to be locked up in mental asylums, although things are improving now that psychologists are entering the workforce). But it’s also good in the sense that people simply don’t abuse the term or over-diagnose or claim they have a mental disability just to annoy others like what Racrules and I bet many kids in America experience.
I was a social outcast and slightly OCD in high school, but nobody called me any names. The bullies were more of the ‘kick my bag’ and ‘crack jokes at my expense’ kind.
The best way to handle people who tease and taunt you about their disability is to ignore them. Not in the “I’m too scared to acknowledge your existence” kind, but the “I don’t give a crap what you wanna say about me” kind of attitude. Do not be afraid. If they start getting physical, talk to a teacher or your parent or any adult.
High school can be horrible if you’re ‘different’, but it won’t last forever. Most grown-ups in college and work are understanding, although there are still prejudiced ones.
Exactly.
One of the problems are the people that say they have the problem when they medically don’t (just like there are some “gays” that really don’t have the actual condition, and are like that as result of another cause)
This kind of people make others loose the credibility on the actual problem. That’s why you get phrases like "“Everyone says they have ADD” or “Yeah, I have it too.”, that Rac_Rules got yesterday.
I tend to feel guilty for things that I don’t actually mean. Some people understand that I don’t really mean it, and then, some others, really take the whole thing out of proportion…
^ I completely agree. I still feel awful and guilty and self-loathsome for things I said in the 8th grade. Not necessarily mean things, or things I meant literally, but just slips-of-the-tongue or miswordings.
I’m 6 foot tall, but i feel like I’m only 4…
I’m only 5’. But I feel like such a loser, I feel like Thumbelina. 
I really hate how people ‘pretend’ to be mentally-disabled to mock others (“Don’t be retarded! Hurr! Hurr!”). I know it’s done in jest and is much like how ‘gay’ has come to mean something lame or pathetic in contemporary English, but it just typecasts a group in a negative way in my opinion.
Just like how I’m immensely annoyed when people adopt faux lesbianism just to get guys’ attention. You know, like Britney and Madonna’s infamous kiss. Or how practically every bar scene in a movie nowadays will have two women ‘play kissing’.
I don’t know. Am I being too much of a prude, or am I justified in hating ‘posers’ who are trying to mock people for being different from them?
Like that ‘comedian’ Carlos Mencia. That’s the staple of his act.